Starting a new year at an early learning centre can be emotional and stressful for parents and children. 

Many babies and children are happy throughout the transition, but some take a little longer to get used to their routine and get upset about being separated from their parent.

It might help to know that separation anxiety can be a normal part of settling in and one of the emotional stages of development. 

Most babies begin to experience separation anxiety between 8 to 12 months, but it usually peaks between the ages of 1 to 2 years. 

We spoke to Emma Davies, Director of the Roundhouse Children’s Centre in Fairlight, about how to help your child transition smoothly into childcare.

Here are her top tips:

1. The most important point, and probably the most difficult, is to try not to be stressed or worried. Babies and children are tuned into how their adults are feeling. Try to be enthusiastic and happy and your child will generally feed off this energy. If your baby or child cries, try not to be upset in front of your child as this will tell them that there is something to be upset about.
2. Spend time with your child at the centre before their first day. This is a great time for you both to get to know your educators and get an insight into the day-to-day routines.
3. At drop off, ask your child to help you with a routine such as putting their hat in the basket, applying sunscreen or placing their drink bottle on the table. 
4. Spend a few minutes engaging with your child in a favourite activity, be it reading a story or building with blocks.
5. Create a quick goodbye ritual, then leave straight away. Dragging out the process can often make your child more upset. It may be tempting to leave quietly if they are playing happily, but it’s important to say goodbye even if it causes tears.  
6. Tell your child when you will be back in a way they’ll understand, such as after afternoon tea. This helps to build trust by letting them know when they can expect to see you again.
7. Pack their security items like dummies, teddies or blankets. Have a chat with the educators to discuss bringing in a family photo to put up in the room.

Remember separation anxiety is a normal part of emotional development for children. Each child is unique and has their own timeline on how long it will take for them to settle into a new environment with new faces. Be patient, consistent and be kind to yourself – you are doing a wonderful job.

Northern Beaches Council has 7 childcare centres with places available for children aged 3 to 5 at Belrose Children's Centre, Dee Why Children's Centre and The Roundhouse Children's Centre. 

Enrol your child in a Council run children’s centres and be confident that you are getting the best early learning care as well as excellent value for money.